Stress management

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “how heavy is this glass of water?”  Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it.” 

“If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache  in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.  “In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

He continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.” “As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.”

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.”

“Relax; pick them up later after you’ve rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!”

And then he shared some ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

1. Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.

2. Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

3. Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

4. Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.

5. Eat a live toad in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you for the rest of the day.

6. If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

7. If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

8. It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

9. Never buy a car you can’t push.

10. Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won’t have a leg to stand on.

11. Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.

12. Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

13. The second mouse gets the cheese.

14. When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.

15. Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

16. You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

17. Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

18. Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.

19. We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors but  they all have to live in the same box.

20. A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

21. Happiness comes through doors you didn’t even know you left open.
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I don’t know if the statements above are all serious, but some are surely are funny.  The biatch in me like #17, hahaha. 

In short, we do not have forever to live our lives, so might as well enjoy every minute.  But then again, there are times when boredom settles in.  Oh well, that’s life. 

 ” F A M I L Y “

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
“Oh excuse me please” was my reply.

He said, “Please excuse me too;
I wasn’t watching for you.”

We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said good-bye.

But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
“Move out of the way!”  I said with a frown.  I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken.

While I lay awake in bed,
God’s still small voice came to me and said,

“While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abbuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You’ll find some flowers there by the door.

Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.

He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.”

By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
“Wake up, little one, wake up,” I said.

“Are these the flowers you picked for me?”
He smiled, “I found ‘em, out by the tree.

I picked ‘em because they’re pretty like you.
I knew you’d like ‘em, especially the blue.”>

I said, “Son, I’m very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn’t have yelled at you that way.”
He said, “Oh, Mom, that’s okay.
I love you anyway.”

I said, “Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.”

FAMILY
Are you aware that if we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days.  But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed, don’t you think?  So what is behind the story?
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?

FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

Arasso, arasso. (I understand).  This poem has been sent to me a long time ago, but it still touches my heart.  Coz everytime I read it, I cannot help myself but feel ashamed because I sometimes do what the woman did.  I may show my kindness to strangers or even to the people I know outside my family.  But sometimes, I’m rude to my relatives, and I take their presence for granted most of the time.  BUt I don’t mean to be that way.  I guess I’m just used to them being around always so I thought my behaviour won’t be too inappropriate.  But I was so wrong.  This poem is an awakening.  And thanks to it, it makes me reflect on how I was and what I choose to be in the future.

Name Game

Does your name begin with: A
U are not particularly romantic, but you are interested in action.You mean business. With you, what you see is what you get.You have no patience for flirting and can’t be bothered with someone who is trying to be coy, cute, demure, and subtly enticing. You are an up-front person. You ofte n don’t get hints & you ever pass any. Brains turn you on. You must feel that your partner is! intellectually stimulating, otherwise you will find it difficult to sustain the relationship. You require loving, cuddling, wining, and dining to know that you’re being appreciated. Your mate’s physical attractiveness is important for you. You tend to be very Practical, & not very emotional Your choices are very good & can only lead to trouble. You are very self satisfied & egoistic.

Scorpio

Turn ons

Scorpio`s are full of passion and zest for life. They have tremendous drive that can involve you too. Tune in to their wavelength and you can enjoy the harmony and music in life with them. Scorpio`s are loyal and never forget a kind deed done by you. If you want to enjoy life with your Scorpio lover share their passion and intensity and you will be fascinated by how beautiful life can be with them.

Turn offs

Scorpio`s are very passionate and intense but they are also fiercely possessive and would like to possess your mind, body and soul. Do not let seeds of jealousy grow in them because then you may have to suffer agonies of jealousy and discontentment in life. Scorpio`s have explosive tempers be careful how you handle them. They never let anyone know what is going on in their mind till they strike and you may be caught unawares. Do not flirt around in the presence of your Scorpio lover.

I’ve seen and read lots of this horoscope chuva ek-ek, astrology, name meanings, etc and well, all I can say is, whatever!

I mean, nobody knows who the real you is except God and yourself.  Sometimes we cannot even say straightforward that we know our own self.  So why believe these clairvoyant sentences?

I’m not saying that it is bad, it’s just not practical.  In life, especially now that living is so hard, we should use logic.  Sure, some phrase describe your true self in a way, but should we always rely on words from people we don’t even know?  These are random thoughts, random researches.  Sure, some have studied people’s behaviours but those were limitied to a certain number and time. 

Anyway, why am I so pent up with Horoscope?  Uhmm, the Lord clearly said in the Bible that we shouldn’t worry about tomorrow, let it worry about itself.  Meaning, let’s live today, what is in front of us.  I’m not saying we shouldn’t be worried about the future, it’s human nature to be problematic about what will happen.  But we shouldn’t consult what the stars say.  Sure, others will say it’s just for fun, or they do not do it regularly, just once in a while.  That they don’t really believe what is being predicted.  Then why try? 

I’ve never done that, not even once.  I do read horoscopes sometimes in the papers, out of boredom, but I don’t even think about it.  It has never sunk in my head.  I was entertained by the Mythology though.  But that’s all they are, entertainment.  And I hope that’s what everyone thinks of astrology, etc too.  But of course, that’s like saying all the tomatoes in the basket is fresh. Hehehe.

I’m not saying I have an upright standpoint, coz I cannot change the way prediction fanatics’ minds.  This is my choice and theirs are theirs.  And since this is my blog, I’m just stating my opinion.  Lolz!

HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS

This would give you guides on how to control your emotions towards your better-half, friends, officemates and all the people around you, especially your “boss” . The rules of practicing “ugaling langit, ugaling kaaya-aya” :

1. Ang naunang magalit ang may karapatang magalit. Pag naunahan ka na ng galit niya, tumahimik ka na lang muna. [Ahh, okey]

2. Walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Pag hindi kayo sumagot o pumatol, titigil din daw ang taong nakikipag- away sa inyo. [Korek, hahaha.  Magmumukha siyang baliw]

3. Ang taong galit, ‘bingi.’ If someone is angry, wala raw pinakikinggan, so, don’t try to explain and fight back. Hindi ka niya iintindihin dahil wala siyang naririnig kundi ang sarili nya. [Tama nga.  Ba’t kaya ganun?  Nawawala na ang reasoning kapag galit ang isang tao.]

4. Ang taong galit, ‘abnoy.’ Ayon sa pastor, biblical daw ito because the Lord said when He was crucified, “Father, patawarin mo sila dahil hindi nila alam ang kanilang ginagawa.” Modern term for these kinds of people are abnoys, so you better not get angry para huwag kang matawag na abnoy.

You should also know and realize that the persons who make your day bad are jewels, because you need them for you to mature. Hangga’t andyan daw sila at kinaiinisan mo, ibig sabihin, immature ka pa. God will not take away those people; it’s for you to take away your bad feelings towards them. You’ll know na mature ka na pag dumating ‘yung time na hindi ka na naiinis sa mga taong ito because you have learned to accept them and to have patience with them. [Patience is a virtue, totally]

5. Finally, the best part of this is to tell yourself na, because of this person, “I will grow mature,” and that DAHIL SA CONTRIBUTION NIYA SA MATURITY MO, KUKUNIN DIN SYA NI LORD. [Panalo!!]